Marriage is a special bond indeed.Sometimes can become a shackle and sometimes the reason to smile,not just outside but from within.Very few of us realize the importance of making our partners feel special..making them realize how our lives are incomplete without them.Some do it some don't for whatever the reason,,,Ego,lack of affection,different priorities in life.
Its very very important to make your partner feel secure.Being a woman I can talk from women's perspective.Nevertheless being a human I feel every human needs that.The sense of belonging is very important.
Here is a list of things I feel every happy marriage should have in that order:
1. Open Communication
This is very important.and there is a reason why I kept this number 1.As long as there is a open channel of communication between partners ,the possibility of misunderstandings will weaken.
2.Respect
No matter what the situation is..which can be very trick at times..and you may lose your cool...Try and never lose respect for your partner.Just like a arrow cannot be taken back from a bow..harsh words cant be either.
Respect should never fade .Believe it or not ,the more you respect each other ,the more stable the marriage will be.
5.Forgive and forget
We are all humans and we make
mistakes.Sensibility lies in accepting them and correcting
them.Forgiving others is part of growing up.It not only relieves others
but even your own self.Surprised?Try it yourself.
3.Treat each other equals
Treat your partner equal .Never type cast each other .See what makes your partner happy and that's what should drive things in your marriage.Not the social hippocracy.
4.Appreciation
Everyone needs to be acknowledged and
appreciated for what they are and what they do.Same applies to a
couple.A casual compliment ,a recognition for whatever your partner is
good at will take your marriage a long way.Your partner could be a good
singer or a good writer or a dancer..Acknowledge that and compliment
them.It gives your partner a sense that you take pride in them.
6.Love/kindness
A little kindness and love goes a long way.Cherish your partners presence in your life.Love them for who they are.Accept them with their weaknesses and highlight their strengths..
7. Individual space and time
Never forget your own self .Give yourself some space and time.Live your life outside your marriage als ,,so you don't lose touch with your own self.
Its funny how our perspective changes as we grow up and experience so much on our own.Had I been a 16 yr old again .I probably would start this list from bottom priority wise..:)...
Jokes apart..With these thoughts in mind ..you will never go wrong with your marriage ..Try it and see if that's whats lacking in your marriage and you may be surprised with the results.
